Are you a principled person? Do you stand for your convictions with passion because you believe they make you a better human? But when you’re honest, you’re also feeling drained because you’re constantly fighting for them. Let me take you on a thought experiment and let’s take an unconventional look at your principles.
In this world, when you live your life believing that your principles elevate you, you always have an agenda — at least unconsciously. You push your viewpoints on others. And you push hard. Conversations become verbal battles. You’re right and you need others to get it!
Every interaction turns into a competition.
Life in this world is exhausting. I can sense it. And if you’re really honest with yourself, you can admit that defending your principles “against others” doesn’t make you feel elevated. It makes you feel miserable. When you attack people, you don’t like yourself. Often, you don’t even recognize yourself in these situations. Your fear of feeling weak and meaningless is so unbearable that you have to direct it towards others. Away from yourself. And in that process, ironically, you end up feeling like scum. Thinking that your principles elevate you does exactly the opposite: It diminishes you. And you diminish others. But you don’t see another option.
Your self-worth depends on your being principled.
Now, for a moment, picture that same world with one but critical difference. You don’t believe that your principles elevate you. How would you experience life in that world? Who would you be?
In that world, interactions are led by curiosity and respect. They feel light and soft and quite possibly energizing. Gone is the fear of inferiority. The dread of meaningless existence doesn’t exist.
Every interaction becomes an opportunity for connection.
All your life you had mis-taken your principles for the truth.
The instant that understanding comes into awareness, there is a monumental shift. You finally see that you have a choice! You can continue living in THIS world or you can consciously choose to start living in THAT world.